Today I’m talking about self love and seasons of life. This topic has been on my mind for a week or two now.
When people think about wellness they often think of eating right, working out, drinking more water or quitting bad habits like smoking. The idea of “self love” as it relates to wellness, though becoming more popular, usually isn’t what people think about first.
Which is a shame really, because all things are better when they’re done through love.
For example – if you diet because you “hate your body” and it’s punishment, you’re going to be miserable. If you think of changing your eating habits because you love yourself and want to nourish your amazing body, you’re going to be way more excited about eating better.
How do we start with love?
We all go through seasons of our life (a concept I learned from awesome mom blogger Allie Casazza). Some seasons are easy, some seasons are harder. Each season requires a different version of ourselves. But if we measure ourselves from one season against another, it can lead to a lot of self-loathing.
For example, I am 11 weeks postpartum. My baby is just getting on what could even remotely resemble a schedule. But for the past few weeks I’ve been comparing my current self in this new season of motherhood to my past self. The self who had no kid. The self who could get up at 5:30 a.m. to work out (because she slept all night!). The self who had 2 hours to cook dinner without interruption.
This left me mad and upset. I was disappointed that my current self wasn’t doing the things that my old self did.
Why haven’t I lost this baby weight yet? I’m a HEALTH FOOD BLOGGER!
Why can’t I seem to get anything done? I thought I’d be blogging like a BOSS!
Why have I been drinking so much coffee lately? My energy should be more natural! (Cue hysterical laughter of all moms everywhere).
Eventually, I had to let go, surrender and practice self love.
I realized I was measuring my new self by old standards. It was time to adjust my expectations.
The more I thought about it, the more I felt called to share. I think this is a topic so many people can relate to.
How many times do we experience major life shifts – births, deaths, marriage, divorce, new jobs, lost jobs, moves -where everything we have known is upended, and yet we’re still trying to operate as if life is how it’s always been. We find ourselves angry, frustrated, upset and feeling stuck.
It’s in these moments, when the seasons of our life change, that we need self love the most. That it should be on the top of our list, the first tool in our ‘wellness toolbox’.
So how can you practice self love? It’s different for everyone, but here are a few of my favorite ways:
- Write a quick gratitude list (even if it’s in the Notes app on your phone).
- Do a 10-minute meditation (you don’t have to be the Dali Lama, just download or YouTube a quick one and do it right before bed. Here are a few of my favs.).
- Create a self love mantra and say it every day.
- Take a walk.
- Spend time without your cell phone.
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
- Stop comparing yourself to old versions of yourself.
- Write in your journal.
- Put on make up and do your hair, just because.
- Make yourself a meal you love.
- Tackle something you’ve been putting off.
- Compliment someone else (and mean it!). Connecting with others always raises our vibration.
I’d love to hear what you’re up to. Leave a comment below and tell me how you’re committing to practicing self-love today!